A common expression is "I'll meet you halfway", and we take this attitude often in our marriage. I hear common complaints of couples in difficulty, your partners to pull their fair weight isn't, one over the other giving.
Who determines that life is a 50-50 proposal?
Some give andere.Einige take more than more than others. There are differences of effort, economy and emotions on every level of society from the policy for social interactions.
Going into a relationship with the expectation that contributions be divided equitably is disaster. A certain amount of flatness through a process of giving and highs and deep will develop over a period of time.But can be at any given point, while the others need only to take a while.
We all need the most important relationship of our life with the knowledge and determined commitment give 100% eingeben.sobald we have internalized this concept, we can avoid the painful feelings we get when we think we are cheated by our rewards.If the relationship is healthy and commits both partners that are 100% held, finally it bell curve of values work somewhere in the Middle - probably never 50 50, but somewhere in the width: 30 to 70 %.Zu the equation fits different times as careers, children and other tasks change.
If you give each 70% and your other half falls a little short, remember that you swore to give 100% so you much better than expected.
To see how such thinking changes within your marriage?You are not getting scammed, you get much more support than your original agreement required!
You can use this new attitude in every aspect of your partnership.Many couples develop resentment about relative monetary funds.Have the initial expectation of being the only breadwinner, however small, then every post from the other, a great big Bonus.Bei entering the association with the expectation that all cleaning and parenting required discusses tasks, then everything is be done by your partner a plus.
If one of your social obligations, is the participation of your spouse, even if only shows and can expect there, limited more than you feel like many of my patients, you do not always support and good strokes you earn .REFRAME sense of deprivation within the 100% concept and you find that even occasional support and positive feedback is an unexpected gift.
We all must feel loved and valued and we must give more gehegt.Wir also love and appreciation to others to geben.Wenn as we get, we can harbor anger, to our cheated or can we love and appreciate for that to give a greater capacity.
A single change in Outlook on your relationship can transform the hidden resentment nagging, negativity and verbal putdowns in a deep satisfaction which leads the obvious affection, positive support and mutual respect.
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